I believe there are a very few people on this earth who doesn’t like receiving gifts. However, nowadays I enjoy the pleasure of selecting gifts for others more than the other way around.
When I was in nursery my baba (Father) always made it sure that I get a gift from him if I get a rank among top three. And the interesting part was the gift becomes dearer based on the rank. For example, I remember I got a mirrored lipstick for coming first in the class and the other time a big box of chocolaty nuts for coming third.
These gifts were not only an acknowledgement of my hard work but also provided me the motivation to perform better. I do remember my mom’s surprise gifts like once she got us an animal print dress for a wedding party. I was too young to understand if I had liked that dress or not, but I liked the surprise factor.
As we grew up the frequency of such gifts coming, or surprises obviously reduced but despite getting less number of gifts, my emotions did not dampen much. This because later onwards, I then started looking for other things, like the one best dress that my parents will get me for Durga puja! Also the beautifully stitched dress from my grandma. It still brings smile on my face when I think about that yellow satin dress which my parents got me for one such occasion.
With time I started looking at the gift from a different perspective. There was a time when I used to get unhappy to get a book on my birthday instead of a “Barbie Doll”. When I went to college, my preference shifted to more “useful” gifts such as a beautiful dupatta or bag or perfume, over dolls and soft toys though they are still one of my favourite collectibles.
Somehow now I am more curious to buy gifts for my family and friends. How wonderful it feels when we find the perfect gift for our loved ones! Our minds become full of joy and peace when we think we got the most appreciating gift for the person we are buying for.
On a serious note- of late I feel while buying gifts we tend to do two mistakes: one, buying something and expecting that it will be always liked, two, worrying what if my gifts are not liked and it turns out to be a waste.
But you know, I think these considerations are just junk of thoughts! We buy gifts to make others feel special and of course to make our little inner soul happy! So why burden ourselves so much with the constant fear of rejection of the gifts. I tell you one such incident – my husband has a strong liking for the blue shades, but I am happy with every shade on this earth! So, I ended up buying a bright green t-shirt for him. Next what- should I feel stressed thinking he might not like it, should I ? Not really, because I knew his choice I made my choice out of love for him, thinking he will look like a hero in that green t-shirt. Now what he will do with that t-shirt that I cannot really control. My imagination, my love and my enjoyment are all I had with me while selecting the gift and that is all that matters.
So I cannot hold my undying love to gift my loved ones on different occasions. Starting from sending a cake on my sister’s birthday, buying an English totebag for my niece while visiting India to buying a beautiful saree for my mom on meeting her after a year. I cannot stop feeling the warmth and fulfilling sensation that I get more when I buy gifts for others than to receive one. I hope I get ample moments to feel the same again and again